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Citizens Advice Fareham
The Charity for Your Community
For urgent help freephone 24 helpline 080 820 00247
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence is behaviour by an adult towards another (usually partner or spouse) that is controlling and forceful.
It can be:
It can happen to anyone, in all kinds of relationships - heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender regardless of class, age, race, disability. The abuse can start at any time - in new relationships or after many years together.
All forms of abuse come from the abuser's desire for power and control.
Children are profoundly affected by domestic violence. Whatever the abuse, you do not have to put up with it. We are here to help and advise you.
You do have options
> stay in the present home and get the perpetrator of the violence to leave
> take legal action.
> stay at home if you think this is safe
> stay with relatives or friends
> stay in a women’s refuge. This is only an option for women (with or without children)
> get emergency accommodation from the local authority under homeless persons law - this will usually mean a bed and breakfast hostel
> move into privately rented accommodation
Women’s Aid Refuges are safe houses run by and for women suffering domestic violence. Refuges provide somewhere safe for women and their children to stay and allow some time and space for the woman to think about what to do next.
Staff at refuges are specialised in dealing with domestic violence, and so can give a lot of emotional and practical support, for example, advice on benefit claims, which solicitors to use and, if necessary, how to contact the police.
Refuges can provide safe space, as well as practical and emotional support. They all differ and offer varying levels of support. It is usual to be referred by an agency such as CAB, Police, Samaritans or Social Services.
Southampton Woman’s Aid: www.womensaid.org.uk
PARCS is an organisation based within Portsmouth City that work with persons who have been sexually violated at any time in their lives no matter how long ago.
The telephone helpline for persons aged 18+ is open on: Mondays from 1.00 PM - 3.00 PM (Excluding Bank Holidays) Wednesdays & Fridays 7.00 PM - 10.00 PM
Women's Crisis Line: 023 9266 9511
Men's Crisis Line: 023 9266 9516
Samaritans 24 hours: 08457 909090
The Police have specially trained staff to help people experiencing domestic violence. They work closely with other organisations offering help and support. Their aim is to ensure the violence does not happen again.
If you take legal action to protect yourself or your family from domestic violence, you may qualify for legal aid without having to meet the normal financial conditions.
To discuss legal protection for yourself and your children consult a solicitor who is experienced in matrimonial work. Fareham CAB can help with solicitors who deal with these cases.
You can look at the online Legal Adviser Directory on the Community Legal Service website here
Can support you in dealing with the emotional and practical difficulties involved in domestic violence. They can also support you at court if needed.
Support line: 0845 30 30 900
In an emergency ring 999, otherwise 0845-045-4545
Provides support and counselling to anyone over 16 who has suffered any sexual abuse or assault, however long ago.
Tel: Southampton - 023-8063-6313
Refuge + Women's Aid
Freephone 24 hour 0808 2000 247
Free and confidential phone 0800 1111
NSPCC Child Protection Helpline
Freephone 0800 800 500
Male Advice & Enquiry line
0845 064 6800
Perpetrators of violence
There are specialist organisations which can help violent people who want to stop being violent.
Some are self help groups run by others who have had experience of violent behaviour, others may be run by trained counsellors. It may also be possible for you to get help through your GP.
National Domestic Violence Helpline
A national 24 hour helpline provides access to advice and support to anyone experiencing domestic violence. The freephone helpline number is 0808 200 0247. The helpline is provided jointly by Women's Aid and Refuge.